10 SIGNS YOUR PARTNER IS SABOTAGING YOU

Have you been feeling off in your relationship lately?

Like something is slowly pulling the two of you apart, but you can’t quite put your finger on it?

You keep wondering if it’s just a phase or if there’s actually something deeper going on.

Well, let’s talk about something people don’t talk about enough.

Relationship sabotage.

Yeah, it’s real.

And sometimes, it’s your own partner doing it.

Sounds crazy, right?

But it happens.

Sometimes people sabotage their relationships intentionally. Sometimes, they do it without even knowing.

If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is slipping through your fingers no matter how hard you try, you might be dealing with sabotage.

Let’s dig into this together.

Here are 10 signs your partner is sabotaging you.

1. They blame you for everything

Ever get blamed for things that don’t even make sense?

Like the food was cold so somehow that’s your fault.

Or they forgot their friend’s birthday and now they’re mad at you for not reminding them.

It’s always something.

When someone keeps pointing fingers and never takes accountability, that’s not just annoying. It’s harmful.

In a healthy relationship, you both own your mistakes and figure things out.

But when they’re always blaming you?

It slowly chips away at your confidence.

You start second-guessing everything you say and do.

And guess what? That’s exactly what sabotage looks like.

2. They avoid deep conversations

We all have off days.

But when your partner refuses to talk about emotions all the time, it’s a problem.

Like when they go silent during arguments.

Or when you ask how they’re feeling and they just shrug or walk away.

That silence isn’t peace. It’s distance.

It’s a wall they’re building.

In a strong relationship, people talk. Even when it’s hard.

Especially when it’s hard.

If your partner doesn’t want to share their thoughts, that means they’re shutting you out on purpose.

And maybe even pushing you away.

3. They’re suddenly “too busy” for the relationship

Listen.

Everyone gets busy. Work, family, life happens.

But when your partner suddenly doesn’t have time to talk, hang out, or even reply to texts?

Red flag.

Especially if they have time for literally everything else.

They go out with friends.

They binge-watch shows.

They’re always on their phone.

Just not for you.

You’re not asking for 24/7 attention. You just want to feel like you matter.

When they pull away like that, it’s not by accident.

It’s them taking steps back from the relationship.

And whether they admit it or not, it’s a form of sabotage.

4. They hold grudges forever

You messed up. Maybe you said something wrong or forgot something important.

You apologized. Genuinely.

But they won’t let it go.

Days go by. Weeks. Maybe even months.

And they’re still cold.

Still bringing it up.

Still treating you like you’re on trial.

That’s not healthy. That’s punishment.

And it has nothing to do with fixing the issue.

It’s about control. Power. Making you feel small.

If they use your mistakes to guilt-trip you or to keep you begging for forgiveness, they’re not trying to heal.

They’re sabotaging you emotionally.

5. They break promises… a lot

A promise is a big deal.

Even if it’s something small.

Like calling when they say they will.

Or showing up when you need them.

When someone keeps breaking promises, it breaks the trust too.

Sure, life happens. Sometimes things come up.

But if it’s a pattern? If they make promises just to keep you quiet and then do the exact opposite?

That’s not forgetfulness. That’s sabotage.

They’re showing you that their word doesn’t mean anything.

And they’re slowly teaching you not to rely on them.

6. They criticize everything you do

You try something new with your hair.

They say it looks weird.

You cook dinner.

They say it’s too salty.

You laugh a little too loud at something and they say you’re being annoying.

They nitpick everything.

And over time, you stop trying.

You stop doing things you love.

You stop being you.

That’s what sabotage does.

It makes you feel like you’re never good enough.

And the worst part? They might say they’re “just being honest.”

But honesty without kindness is just cruelty.

7. They compare you to other people

Why can’t you dress more like their coworker?

Why don’t you act like their best friend’s girlfriend?

Why don’t you do this or that like someone else?

You get the picture.

Comparisons hurt.

They make you feel like a placeholder. Like you’re not good enough.

If your partner constantly holds you up against other people, they’re not appreciating who you are.

They’re creating a gap.

One where you always feel like you’re trying to measure up.

It’s toxic. And it’s sabotage.

8. They refuse to resolve conflicts

Every time there’s a fight, you want to fix things.

You reach out. Try to talk. Try to make peace.

But they’re just not interested.

They’d rather leave things hanging.

Or they act like it never happened.

That might sound like avoiding drama, but it’s actually creating more of it.

Unresolved issues pile up.

Resentment builds.

And slowly, love fades.

If your partner never wants to work things out, it means they’re okay watching the relationship crumble.

That’s a loud sign of sabotage.

9. They play the victim every time

Every disagreement turns into a scene.

Somehow, they’re always the one hurt.

Even if they’re the one who did something wrong.

They twist the story. Make you feel guilty.

You end up apologizing for things that weren’t even your fault.

Sound familiar?

This is emotional manipulation at its finest.

It keeps you in a constant state of confusion and guilt.

And if they’re doing this all the time, they’re not just being dramatic.

They’re sabotaging your sense of peace.

10. They make you doubt yourself

This one is subtle.

And that’s what makes it dangerous.

They make little comments.

Like “Are you sure you can handle that?”

Or “You’re too sensitive.”

Or “That’s probably not a good idea.”

At first, you might brush it off.

But over time, you start believing it.

You stop trusting your instincts.

You start feeling unsure about everything.

When someone makes you doubt yourself constantly, it’s not love.

It’s sabotage dressed up as concern.

Final Thoughts

Look.

Every relationship has rough patches.

But if you’re constantly walking on eggshells, always feeling drained, or unsure of your worth, you need to pause.

Pay attention to the patterns.

If your partner is doing some or most of these things, they might be sabotaging you.

Whether it’s intentional or not, the damage is real.

You deserve a relationship where you feel safe, seen, and supported.

Not one that slowly breaks you down.

Talk to your partner.

Be honest.

And if they’re not willing to grow with you, it might be time to grow without them.

You owe it to yourself.

Always.