How To Get Over A Crush Who Ignores You in 10 Easy Ways

Having a crush can feel like carrying a secret that’s too loud.

You catch yourself thinking about them all day. Replaying conversations in your head. Wondering what you should have said. What you could have worn. Whether they noticed your new haircut.

It gets worse when your crush knows how you feel and still acts like you’re invisible. Ouch. That stuff stings. And no matter how many times your friends say, “Just get over it,” you know it’s not that simple.

I’ve been there. Deep in the trenches of unrequited love.

There was this girl I liked so much that I practically turned into a cartoon character around her. My brain would short-circuit. I’d laugh too loud. Trip over words. Say weird stuff that made no sense.

And what did she do?

She laughed. But not in a sweet way. More like I was unintentionally auditioning for a comedy role I didn’t sign up for.

Looking back, I can laugh at myself. But back then, it hurt. I kept wondering if she laughed because I was funny or just plain silly.

One day I realized something had to change.

I made a few moves that helped me get over her. Some were tough. Others were surprisingly easy. But every step pulled me out of the weird emotional hole I had dug myself into.

If you’re in that space now, this post is for you.

1. Focus on Something Else

You need a new obsession. Yep. Something that doesn’t involve staring at your phone, waiting for their name to pop up.

Pick something that makes your heart beat a little faster. A hobby. A project. A goal.

When I was nursing my crush wounds, I started writing random short stories. Were they good? Nope. Did they help? Absolutely.

Paint. Sing. Dance in your room. Walk dogs at the shelter. Bake cookies. Do anything that makes you feel like you again.

Obsessing over someone who isn’t checking for you is exhausting. Shift the energy.

2. Learn to Ignore Them Too

This part isn’t about being petty. It’s about protecting your peace.

There’s something powerful about realizing you don’t owe someone your attention just because your heart picked them.

I remember learning Newton’s third law in school: For every action, there’s an equal and opposite reaction. That hit different when I applied it to my crush.

She ignored me. So, I started ignoring her.

No more goofy grins when she walked past. No more fake laughs. I just carried on with my day.

It felt awkward at first. Like I was pretending not to care when I still did. But the more I practiced it, the more real it became.

3. Meet New People

Here’s the truth. You’re not going to forget them if you keep orbiting the same people, the same spots, and the same conversations.

Go where you can meet fresh faces. Not necessarily for romance. Just to remind yourself that the world is full of interesting people.

I joined a book club once. Read zero books. But I made three friends who had no clue who my crush was.

It was a breath of fresh air.

Let new people show you new perspectives. You might even laugh without trying to impress anyone.

4. Change What You Value

Let’s talk values.

What draws you to someone? Be honest.

Is it just looks? Popularity? The way they dress?

I used to crush hard on girls who looked like they stepped out of a magazine. But they didn’t always have the qualities I wanted in a real relationship.

When I started valuing kindness, honesty, and depth, my crush radar changed.

Think about the traits you admire. Then ask yourself if your current crush even has them. If they don’t, maybe your heart needs a tune-up.

5. Release the Jealousy

You see them talking to someone else.

Laughing.

Smiling.

And suddenly, you feel like your chest is about to explode.

Jealousy is normal, but it’s also draining. Holding on to it is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets hurt.

You need to let it go.

I started journaling. Sounds cheesy, I know. But it worked. I’d write stuff like, “I feel jealous today. I don’t know why, but I do. And that’s okay.”

It helped me unpack it instead of letting it fester.

6. You’re Not the Reason They Ignore You

It’s easy to think, “Maybe if I was funnier,” or “If only I dressed better…”

Don’t fall into that trap.

People ignore others for many reasons. Some are clueless. Others are dealing with their own stuff. And some just aren’t interested.

It doesn’t mean you’re not worthy. It doesn’t mean you’re not good enough.

It just means this isn’t the person for you.

Repeat this: Their disinterest is not your fault.

7. Accept That It’s Not a Relationship

This one’s tough.

Sometimes, we build entire daydreams around someone. You imagine dates, texts, how they’d react to your jokes, maybe even what your kids would look like.

But here’s the real talk:

It’s not a relationship.

It’s a one-sided fantasy. And that’s okay. Crushes feel good until they don’t.

Once you accept that you two were never a thing, it becomes easier to let go.

You don’t owe the dream a chance to keep hurting you.

8. Cut Down the Contact

Still texting them “what’s up?” every now and then? Still watching every story they post? Still walking past their locker (or desk or table) more than necessary?

Time to stop.

This doesn’t mean you’re being mean. It means you’re creating space to heal.

Mute them if you have to. Don’t reply if it’s not necessary. Let your heart breathe without constant reminders of their presence.

Distance helps more than you think.

9. Talk About It

Don’t bottle it up.

Talk to someone who won’t judge. A friend. A sibling. Anyone who’ll listen without giving you that look.

Saying things out loud helps clear the fog. I had a friend who would just nod and go, “Yeah, man, I get it,” and honestly, that was enough.

Sometimes you don’t need advice. Just someone who lets you feel what you feel.

10. Be Kind to Yourself

You didn’t mess up by liking them.

You’re not weak for catching feelings.

Having a crush is part of being human. And getting over one is part of growing.

So be kind to yourself.

Watch your favorite show. Eat that snack you love. Take walks. Listen to music that understands you.

You’re doing your best, and that’s more than enough.

Final Words

Crushing on someone who ignores you is one of those silent heartbreaks. It doesn’t make headlines, but it messes with your head.

But guess what?

You’ll be fine. You’ll move on. You’ll laugh again. You’ll probably look back one day and wonder why you even liked them that much.

Until then, take it one step at a time. Try these ten things. And most importantly, don’t forget who you are in the process.

You are worth more than someone’s silence.

Always.