10 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Respect You

Let’s be real for a second.

Love is sweet. We all want it. Most of us even crave it. But love alone won’t keep a relationship going.

It takes more than butterflies in your stomach. More than the “I miss you” texts and the date night pictures for the ‘gram.

There’s a long list of what makes a relationship solid. And trust me, respect is sitting right there at the top.

When someone truly respects you, you feel safe. You feel valued. Like your voice matters. Like your time matters. Like you matter.

So what happens when that respect isn’t there?

You start to feel small. Like your opinions are being ignored. Like you’re constantly explaining your worth to someone who should already see it.

But here’s the thing. Respect isn’t always easy to spot in the early days.

At the beginning, everything feels exciting. New. Butterflies. Sweet messages. That early stage can cloud your judgment. And sometimes, you don’t even notice the red flags waving right in your face.

But if you’re starting to feel unsure… if your gut is whispering that something’s off… you’re not imagining things.

Let’s talk about it. Let’s break down the real signs that show he doesn’t respect you.

Here are 10 clear signs he doesn’t respect you.

1. He lies to you a lot

Let’s start with the obvious.

Lying is a form of disrespect, plain and simple.

And I’m not just talking about big dramatic lies. Even the small ones. The “white lies” that seem harmless. They add up.

Because here’s the truth. If someone respects you, they won’t lie to you. They won’t try to fool you. They won’t see you as someone they can trick.

They’ll be honest. Even when it’s uncomfortable. Even when the truth might start an argument.

If he’s lying to you often, that’s not love. That’s control. That’s manipulation. That’s a lack of respect.

2. He’s always late or cancels plans last minute

We all run late sometimes. Life happens. Traffic. Work emergencies. Things come up.

But when it’s every single time you make plans?

That’s a pattern.

If he’s always showing up late, always keeping you waiting, or constantly canceling last minute with some half-baked excuse…

He doesn’t respect your time.

Think about it. If he had an important work meeting, would he be late to that too?

Probably not.

Because he respects his boss. His job. His paycheck.

So why doesn’t he treat your time with the same care?

It’s simple. Because he doesn’t see you as a priority.

3. He doesn’t listen when you talk

Ever try having a conversation with someone who looks like they’re hearing you but they’re not really listening?

You’re talking, and he’s scrolling through his phone. You’re opening up, and he keeps changing the subject.

That’s not just annoying. That’s disrespect.

When someone respects you, they pay attention.

They listen. Really listen. With eye contact. With interest. With presence.

Because they care about what you have to say. They want to understand you.

If he constantly zones out or tunes you out, that’s a loud sign that he doesn’t respect you.

4. He crosses your boundaries

Boundaries are not rules to control anyone.

They’re there to protect your peace. Your comfort. Your wellbeing.

If you say you don’t like something, and he keeps doing it anyway?

That’s not a mistake. That’s a choice.

Respect means honoring your partner’s boundaries, even when you don’t agree with them.

You don’t have to love someone’s boundaries to respect them.

And if he pushes, mocks, or completely ignores yours…

That’s a sign. A big one.

5. He puts everything else ahead of you

Look, everyone’s busy. Work, family, friends, life.

But when you care about someone, you make time. You create space.

If you’re always the afterthought… the “maybe” in his plans… the one who gets canceled on when something “more important” comes up…

That’s not respect.

Respect shows up in how someone prioritizes you.

Even in the chaos of life, someone who respects you will make you feel like you matter.

You won’t have to fight for their time. You won’t have to beg for their attention.

6. He dismisses your feelings

You ever try telling him how something he did made you feel…

And he responds with something like, “You’re being too sensitive”

Or worse, he laughs like you’re joking.

Ouch.

That stings.

When someone truly respects you, they don’t mock your feelings.

They don’t shut you down.

They listen. They ask questions. They try to understand.

They don’t have to agree with everything you say. But they’ll care enough to hear you out.

If he constantly brushes off your emotions like they’re nothing?

That’s not someone who respects you.

7. He never apologizes when he’s wrong

Nobody’s perfect.

We all mess up. Say things we shouldn’t. Make mistakes.

But what matters is what someone does after they mess up.

Does he take responsibility? Does he say “I’m sorry” without being forced to?

Or does he double down? Blame you? Act like nothing happened?

A respectful partner will own their actions.

They won’t let their pride get in the way of making things right.

If apologies are rare or nonexistent, that’s a sign he doesn’t respect you or the relationship.

8. He flirts with other women

Let’s get one thing clear. Noticing someone attractive isn’t the issue. That’s normal.

But constantly checking out other women in front of you? Following half-naked girls online? Making flirty comments?

That’s not just disrespectful. That’s humiliating.

And you don’t deserve to feel second best.

You don’t deserve to compete for attention with strangers.

If he can’t control himself or at least respect you enough to stop…

That says a lot about how he sees you.

9. He makes fun of you in public or private

Jokes are fine. Teasing can even be cute.

But when it crosses the line into belittling you, embarrassing you, or making you feel small…

That’s not funny. That’s mean.

Some people hide their cruelty in jokes. They say something harsh, then laugh and say, “Relax, I’m just playing.”

If he’s constantly tearing you down, even as a “joke,” that’s not respect.

That’s emotional bullying.

10. He makes you feel like you’re too much

Too emotional. Too needy. Too dramatic. Too complicated.

If he makes you feel like who you are is a burden, not a blessing…

That’s a red flag.

You are not too much.

You are asking for the bare minimum: respect, attention, kindness.

If he acts like those are too hard to give, that’s on him.

Final thoughts:

Sometimes, the hardest thing is admitting when someone doesn’t respect you.

Because we want to believe in the love. We want to believe they’ll change. We want to believe the best.

But respect is not something you should have to earn. It’s the foundation.

If it’s not there, the whole relationship shakes.

So, listen to your gut. Pay attention to how you feel around him.

And remember, you deserve a love that uplifts you, not one that tears you down.

You deserve respect. Always.