12 SIGNS YOUR BOYFRIEND IS NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU

Let me tell you a little story.

My roommate had this boyfriend a while ago. Everything was going great. He was obsessed with her. Always calling. Always texting. Always complimenting her. You could literally feel the sparks from across the room.

Then one day, it was like someone flipped a switch.

Suddenly, he was cold. Distant. Not rude, not mean. Just… off. Like she didn’t exist half the time.

She kept trying to make it work. Trying to be patient. But deep down, she knew. Something had shifted. Something wasn’t right.

A few weeks later, the truth came out. He had met someone else. And that’s when she realized the signs had been there. She just didn’t want to see them.

If you’re in a situation where you feel like your boyfriend is pulling away, and your gut is whispering that maybe he’s not into you anymore, I want you to know something.

You’re not crazy. You’re not imagining it. You’re picking up on real things. And it’s okay to want clarity.

Let’s talk about it.

Here are 12 signs your boyfriend is not attracted to you anymore.

1. He Never Compliments You Anymore

Remember when he used to tell you how pretty you looked?

Even on days when your hair was messy and you were just chilling in pajamas?

If all that has suddenly stopped, it’s not just in your head.

Men are visual. They notice things. And when they’re attracted, they say it.

If he never compliments your looks or the little things you do, it might be because he doesn’t feel that spark anymore.

And by the way, compliments don’t always have to be deep. Even a simple “you look nice today” goes a long way. If that’s missing, it matters.

2. He Doesn’t Want To Spend Time With You

Let’s be honest. People make time for who they want to see.

If your boyfriend always seems busy or uninterested in making plans with you, something’s off.

Especially if he’s out with friends, gaming, or scrolling endlessly but can’t seem to give you a couple of hours.

When a man is attracted to a woman, he’ll want to be around her. He’ll plan date nights. He’ll come over just to see her smile.

But if he’s avoiding time with you? That’s not love talking. That’s distance.

3. He Told You

Sometimes, people literally tell us who they are and how they feel. But we don’t believe them.

He may have made a comment like, “I don’t feel the same way anymore” or “I think we’re just not clicking.”

Even if he said it casually. Even if he was joking. You have to listen.

People joke about serious things because they’re too afraid to say it directly.

If he’s told you, take it seriously.

4. He Stops Being Physically Affectionate

Every relationship is different. Some people are super cuddly. Others aren’t. But physical affection always matters.

If your boyfriend used to be all about holding hands, hugging you tight, or even kissing your forehead just because, and now that’s all gone, it’s not a small thing.

You start to feel it. That gap between you two. Like he’s in a different world.

Even if sex was never part of your relationship, physical closeness should still be there. If it’s gone, it’s a red flag.

5. He Doesn’t Put In Effort Anymore

You feel like you’re the only one trying.

The conversations are one-sided. You plan all the dates. You check in. You ask how he’s doing. You remember things. He forgets.

Attraction brings energy. It makes people want to try.

If your boyfriend is not putting in effort to connect, to care, to nurture the bond, it might be because he doesn’t feel that desire anymore.

6. He Treats You Like A Roommate

This one hurts.

When the romantic vibe disappears and everything starts feeling like a business partnership or like you’re just friends, it can feel so confusing.

He calls you by your name instead of sweet nicknames. He doesn’t flirt with you. Doesn’t tease you like he used to. The playful vibe is gone.

You talk logistics. Groceries. Schedules. Chores. That’s it.

Romance has taken a backseat. And it doesn’t feel like a relationship anymore.

7. He Comments On Your Looks Negatively

This is just mean. And it cuts deep.

If he’s making negative comments about your body, your weight, your skin, or how you dress, it’s a sign he’s not just lost attraction but also lost respect.

You deserve to be with someone who hypes you up, even when you’re not feeling your best.

Our bodies change. Life happens. But love is supposed to be kind.

If he can’t handle your changes with love and sensitivity, what’s he really doing in your life?

8. Everything Turns Into A Fight

All of a sudden, you’re fighting about the most random things.

He snaps at you. He criticizes every little thing. He nitpicks.

And you’re there wondering, When did we become this couple?

Sometimes, when attraction fades, patience goes with it.

He doesn’t see you through loving eyes anymore. So everything you do starts to annoy him.

It’s not your fault. But it’s not fair either.

9. He’s Always Irritated With You

Like you can’t do anything right.

You laugh and he rolls his eyes. You speak and he sighs. You suggest something and he shuts it down.

You’re constantly walking on eggshells.

The warmth and softness are gone. Everything is cold.

Attraction brings gentleness. Even in tough times.

If all you feel is criticism and irritation, you have to ask yourself why.

10. He Spends More Time Away From You

He’s always somewhere else. At work. With friends. In the gym. With his phone.

But not with you.

When he’s with you, he seems distracted. Distant. Checked out.

And when you’re apart, he rarely checks in or tries to connect.

When a man is into you, he wants to be around you. Simple as that.

If he’s not trying to spend time with you, physically or emotionally, the attraction might have faded.

11. You Don’t Feel Desired Anymore

This one is tricky because it’s not always something you can explain.

It’s just a feeling.

You start to feel invisible. Like you’re not seen. Like your presence doesn’t spark anything in him.

You’re not being flirted with. Not being looked at the way you used to be.

And it hurts.

You miss how things used to be. The way he used to touch you. Laugh with you. Look at you.

It feels like you’re in a one-sided crush, even though he’s technically still your boyfriend.

12. You Just Know Something Is Off

Let’s not forget this.

Your intuition matters.

You can’t always explain it. But when something is off, your gut knows.

He may not be doing anything obvious. But you feel the distance. The disinterest. The disconnection.

Don’t gaslight yourself into thinking you’re just insecure or needy.

You’re just trying to make sense of the shift.

Trust your feelings. They’re trying to protect you.

Final Words

Realizing your boyfriend may not be attracted to you anymore is hard.

It can shake your confidence. Make you question your worth.

But let me tell you this.

You are not your boyfriend’s gaze. You are not his compliments or lack of them. You are not less beautiful or worthy because he can’t see it.

Sometimes, attraction fades. Sometimes, people change. And sometimes, it has nothing to do with you.

If you’re in this place right now, please don’t blame yourself.

Talk to him. Ask the hard questions. Have the conversation you’ve been avoiding.

And if the answer breaks your heart, allow it to.

Then choose yourself.

You deserve someone who lights up when they see you. Who doesn’t need reminders to appreciate you. Who still flirts with you when you’re in sweats and a messy bun.

You deserve a love that feels like love.

Don’t settle for anything less.