8 Obvious Signs Your Husband Has A Crush On Another Woman

Do you ever get this weird gut feeling that something’s not right with your husband lately?

Like, he’s there… but also kinda not?

You find yourself overthinking every little change in his behavior. You start wondering if maybe… just maybe… he has a thing for someone else.

Let’s be real. That thought can feel like a punch in the chest. It’s not something any woman wants to think about. But if you’re reading this, you probably already feel something is off.

Marriage is supposed to be a place of love, warmth, and safety.

When things are going great, you feel on top of the world. Your partner feels like your home. Your ride-or-die. Your heart.

But when things start to change, even in small ways, it can shake you.

Especially when your instincts start whispering, “Hey… something’s not right.”

You start noticing little things. Changes in his mood. His schedule. How he talks to you. How he doesn’t.

And you’re not crazy for noticing.

Sometimes, those small things are signs that your husband has a crush on another woman.

Not saying he’s cheating. Not saying he’s done anything terrible. But sometimes, feelings shift. And before you know it, there’s distance between you that didn’t used to be there.

If you’ve been feeling this way lately, let’s talk about it. Like real talk. No sugarcoating.

Here are 8 signs your husband might have a crush on someone else.

Read through. See if any of this hits home.

1. He’s always glued to his phone

Okay. Let’s start with the most common one.

His phone used to be just a phone.

Now? It might as well be a second wife.

He’s on it all the time. At dinner. In bed. Even when he goes to the bathroom, it goes with him like it’s a lifeline.

You ask who he’s texting and he gets vague. Or defensive. Or he laughs it off like it’s not a big deal.

Look, I get it. We all live on our phones these days. Social media, sports, work, whatever. But when your husband is constantly on his phone, smiling at it, guarding it, taking secretive calls… it raises questions.

And the worst part?

When you’re talking to him about something important and he’s more interested in his phone than your face.

It’s like you’re competing with a screen.

If he suddenly becomes way too private about his phone, that’s not something to ignore. Especially if he starts getting calls that he rushes to answer in the other room.

The next time that happens, ask him casually who it is. His reaction might tell you more than his words.

2. He’s getting extra picky about his looks

This one might sound silly at first. But think about it.

Has your husband suddenly turned into a fashion icon overnight?

The man who used to throw on whatever was clean now spends forever picking out clothes. He’s suddenly invested in skincare. He’s Googling the best beard style for his face shape. He bought new cologne and now smells like a luxury perfume ad.

We all want our partners to take care of themselves. But when it happens out of nowhere… you have to ask why.

Who is he trying to impress?

If he’s not doing it for you… chances are, he’s doing it for someone else.

Maybe there’s a woman at work. Or someone in his circle. And he’s trying to look good around her.

Not always the case. But if his sudden makeover doesn’t include compliments to you, it’s worth paying attention to.

3. He’s hiding stuff

This is a big one.

If your husband has started becoming secretive, something is definitely going on.

He suddenly has passwords on everything. You used to know his phone passcode. Now it’s changed. And he won’t tell you.

He clears his browser history. He’s got apps hidden. Maybe even has another email you didn’t know about.

And when you ask questions, he gets weird. Or says things like, “You don’t trust me?”

It’s not even about trust sometimes. It’s about transparency. You want to trust him. But how can you when he’s acting like a walking mystery?

You don’t need to be a detective in your marriage. You deserve to feel safe and included. Not like some outsider in your own home.

If he’s hiding where he’s been, who he’s talking to, or what he’s spending money on, it’s not just harmless behavior. It’s a red flag.

4. He avoids intimacy like it’s a chore

Let’s talk about the physical side.

If your husband suddenly acts like hugging you is a punishment… something’s wrong.

When a man is crushing on someone else, he often disconnects emotionally and physically from his wife. That closeness starts to fade.

You try to kiss him and he turns away.

You try to cuddle and he says he’s tired.

Sex? A thing of the past.

Now, let’s be real. Life gets busy. Stress is a thing. People go through dry spells. But when the emotional connection is gone and the physical affection disappears… it starts to feel like rejection.

That kind of coldness doesn’t come from nowhere.

Sometimes it’s because his mind and heart are wandering somewhere else.

If that’s what’s happening, you deserve to know. You deserve connection. You deserve love. And no, you are not asking for too much.

5. He’s defensive. About everything.

Ever feel like just asking him a simple question turns into World War III?

You say, “Hey, who was that on the phone?” and he snaps, “Why are you always checking up on me?”

You mention you don’t feel as close lately, and he hits back with, “Maybe you’re the one who changed.”

Suddenly, you are the problem.

This is often a cover-up.

When someone knows they’re not acting right, they get defensive. Quick to anger. Quick to blame.

Because deep down, they feel guilty. So they project it onto you.

It’s like reverse psychology. Make you feel crazy for noticing the very things they’re trying to hide.

If he starts avoiding questions, getting snappy, or making you feel like you’re imagining things… don’t doubt your intuition.

You’re not crazy. You’re not imagining it.

Something is up.

6. He’s spending more time away from home

Used to be, he couldn’t wait to come home.

Now? He finds every excuse to stay out.

Work meetings that suddenly run late. Business trips that come out of nowhere. Errands that take two hours. Solo outings that don’t include you anymore.

He acts like being home is uncomfortable. Like you’re the reason he needs space.

But let’s be real.

When a man is emotionally or mentally focused on another woman, he will try to create distance in his marriage. Not always in an obvious way. But it shows.

He might say he needs “me time.” Or “a break from the stress.” But what he’s really doing is pulling away.

Ask yourself this.

Does he seem happy to be home?

Or does he always look like he’s trying to escape?

7. He keeps mentioning another woman. A lot.

Men are not that subtle.

When they have a crush, it tends to show. Even when they’re trying to act normal.

One of the most obvious signs?

He talks about her. Over and over again.

You don’t even know her like that. She could be a coworker, gym buddy, neighbor, or someone you’ve only heard about in passing.

But somehow, she’s always in his stories. Always in the conversation. Always being mentioned with a little smile.

“Oh, you know Sarah from the office? She’s hilarious.”

“I told Maya that joke and she laughed so hard.”

“Anita said something interesting about that the other day.”

Okay. So who is this woman and why is she living rent-free in his head?

When a man keeps bringing someone up, especially with admiration in his tone… it means something.

Even if he doesn’t realize it, he’s already caught feelings.

8. He’s become extra critical of you

This one hurts.

When a man starts catching feelings for someone else, sometimes he starts picking on the one he’s with.

Suddenly, you can’t do anything right.

He complains about how you dress. How you talk. How you cook. How you parent. How you breathe.

He compares you to other women. Sometimes in obvious ways. Other times in small, hurtful comments.

And it feels like everything you do annoys him now.

You start shrinking. Second-guessing yourself. Wondering what you did wrong.

Let me tell you this.

It’s not you.

It’s not because you’re lacking. It’s because he is looking at someone else and unfairly measuring you against them.

It’s a way for him to justify his feelings. To tell himself that maybe this new woman “gets him” more than you do.

Don’t internalize that.

Don’t let it chip away at your confidence.

You are still worthy of love. Still beautiful. Still enough.

If he can’t see that, it says more about him than it ever will about you.

Final Thoughts

If you’re reading this and nodding along to more than a few of these signs… it’s okay to feel hurt. Confused. Angry. Heartbroken.

This isn’t easy.

But before you jump to conclusions, take a breath.

Yes, these signs are serious. But they’re not final proof of anything.

Sometimes people just lose their way. Sometimes couples drift. Sometimes your husband is going through something he hasn’t talked to you about.

That’s why the most important thing you can do is have the conversation.

Talk to him.

Not with accusations. But with honesty. With love. With the kind of vulnerability that says, “I care about us. I want to understand what’s going on.”

If he shuts you down or refuses to talk, that tells you something.

If he opens up, maybe there’s a path to healing.

Whatever happens, don’t let this eat you alive in silence.

You deserve clarity. You deserve truth. You deserve peace in your own relationship.

And above all else, remember this:

Even if your husband has a crush on another woman… it is not your fault.

You didn’t make him disconnect.

You didn’t make him hide things.

He made that choice.

But you? You get to choose how you respond. With strength. With grace. With your head held high.

You are not alone in this. You are not broken. And you are still more than enough.