12 Things Your Husband Wishes You’d Do in Bed
As a wife, you’ve probably had moments where you’ve wondered… what does my man really want in bed?
You’re not alone. A lot of us feel that way.
The truth? While every man is different, there are some things that a lot of husbands secretly (or not so secretly) wish their wives would do between the sheets.
Some of them are simple.
Some of them are a little bold.
But all of them? Game-changing.
So let’s get into it. Let’s talk.
12 Things Your Husband Wishes You’d Do in Bed
1. He wants you to take initiative
Let’s be real.
We’ve all grown up seeing movies where the guy is the one who makes the first move. He leans in, he grabs her waist, he goes for the kiss. And we’ve internalized it.
But girl, your husband? He wants you to make the first move sometimes.
He wants to feel wanted.
When you take the lead, it tells him he’s desirable to you. It says, “I’m not just here for you to please me. I want you. I crave you.”
And that? That’s sexy.
So don’t wait. Walk up to him, kiss him hard, whisper something naughty in his ear, or even send him a flirty text while he’s at work.
He’ll love it.
2. He wants you to experiment with new positions
Routine is the enemy of excitement.
If you’ve been doing the same few moves every time, chances are, your man is craving a little adventure.
Trying new positions can bring a whole new kind of excitement to your bedroom life. And it doesn’t have to be crazy. Even a small change can spark big results.
Maybe you both giggle trying something new. Maybe it’s awkward at first.
That’s okay.
What matters is that you’re willing to explore together.
3. He wants more dirty talk
Let’s talk about talking.
Some women think dirty talk is too much or not classy. But let’s not confuse vulgar with sexy.
Your man wants to hear what you like.
He wants to hear that you want him.
It can be a whisper. A moan. A cheeky comment. Even something playful.
You don’t have to recite an erotic novel. Just tell him how good it feels. How hot he looks. How you’ve been thinking about him all day.
Let your words be a turn-on.
He’s listening.
4. Make eye contact
Okay, I get it. Eye contact can feel intense.
But girl, it’s powerful.
Looking into his eyes while you’re connecting? That’s intimate. That’s deep.
It makes your husband feel like he’s the only one in your world in that moment.
Even just a few seconds of eye contact can change the vibe. Try it next time. You’ll see.
5. Get creative
Let’s shake things up a little.
Being spontaneous can do wonders. Surprise him. Maybe wear something new. Maybe suggest a new place in the house. Maybe just light a few candles.
Little changes can go a long way.
You know what else is sexy? Learning something new together.
Read something spicy. Watch something (together) that gets you both curious. Talk about fantasies.
Don’t be afraid to explore.
6. Don’t forget the little things
You don’t always need a grand gesture to make your man feel loved.
Sometimes, the smallest things hit the deepest.
Like a flirty text that says “Can’t wait for tonight.”
Or rubbing his shoulders while he watches TV.
Or cooking his favorite meal just because.
These tiny gestures build connection. And that connection? It carries into the bedroom.
7. Focus on pleasure
Listen, I know.
You’ve got a million things running through your mind. Laundry. Work. That thing the kids did. Your to-do list is screaming.
But in the bedroom? Try to switch it off.
Try to just be.
Let yourself feel. Let yourself enjoy. Not just physically but emotionally.
Your husband wants to know that you’re with him. That you’re enjoying it, not just going through the motions.
This kind of presence builds a bond nothing can shake.
8. Take care of yourself
This is a big one.
And not because of what he sees. But because of how you feel.
When you feel confident, when you feel sexy in your own skin, that energy radiates.
So take care of your body, yes. But also your heart, your mind, your soul.
Do things that make you feel good. Wear things that make you feel pretty. Don’t wait for a special occasion.
Smell nice. Get that body lotion you love. Rock that silk robe.
When you feel good, you’re magnetic.
9. Keep an open mind
Your husband has desires. You do too.
But sometimes, people don’t talk about them. Because they’re scared. Of judgment. Of rejection.
He wants to feel safe with you.
So when he opens up about something new he wants to try? Don’t freak out. You don’t have to say yes to everything. But be curious. Ask questions.
Let him know it’s okay to be honest.
This kind of openness creates trust. And trust leads to wild, amazing intimacy.
10. Embrace your femininity
There’s something magical about a woman who’s tapped into her feminine energy.
It’s not about wearing pink or being soft-spoken.
It’s about being in touch with your sensuality.
Maybe you wear that lacy thing he loves.
Or you let your hair down and dance a little silly.
Or you look him in the eye and smile like you’ve got a secret.
You don’t have to “try to be sexy.”
Just feel sexy. Be playful. Be confident. Be you.
That’s the vibe your husband can’t resist.
11. Give him compliments
Yes, ladies.
Men love compliments too.
Tell him how good he smells. How strong his arms feel. How much you love how he kisses you.
Tell him he turns you on.
He needs that affirmation just like we do. He wants to know he’s doing a good job. That he’s still got it.
Don’t leave him guessing.
Let your words build him up.
- He wants you to be fun and silly
It’s not all serious.
Sometimes, things get awkward. You bump heads. You fall off the bed. Something weird happens.
Laugh about it.
Play around. Dance together. Tickle each other. Be silly.
That playfulness builds intimacy too.
It reminds you both that you’re not just lovers. You’re best friends. And that’s powerful.
Conclusion
So there you have it.
12 things your husband secretly wishes you’d do in bed.
Not because he wants you to change. But because he wants you to show up. To be present. To feel confident. To connect.
He wants more than just the act. He wants intimacy, connection, fun, laughter, passion.
And you know what? You deserve all that too.
So try one of these things tonight.
You might just surprise him.
And yourself.