25 Reminders for When You Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough

We all have those days.

You wake up, look in the mirror, and all you can think is, “What’s the point?”

Sometimes, it hits out of nowhere. Other times, it builds up after a rough week or a comment that stung more than you wanted to admit.

But for some of us, especially those who grew up with emotional abuse, that feeling doesn’t just show up. It camps out. It becomes the default.

I know what that feels like.

I was raised in an environment where love felt conditional. Like I had to earn it by being perfect or quiet or invisible. And when I wasn’t, I was reminded of how unworthy I was.

Those words stick.

“You’re too sensitive.”

“You’re a failure.”

“Nobody is ever going to want someone like you.”

And the worst part? After hearing them enough times, you start saying them to yourself.

But here’s the thing. That voice in your head isn’t yours. It was planted there. And you can challenge it.

So if you’re in one of those moments right now, here are 25 reminders I hope can help.

They’re not magic. They won’t fix everything overnight. But they’re things I try to tell myself on the rough days.

1. You Are Special

I get it. It sounds cheesy. But stay with me.

There is no one else with your exact blend of thoughts, emotions, experiences, and weird little quirks. That alone makes you one of a kind.

You don’t have to do anything extraordinary to be special. You already are.

2. You Are Not Alone

It might feel like you’re the only one drowning. But you’re not.

So many people are quietly struggling. Even the ones who look like they have it all together.

You are not weird for feeling this way. You’re human.

3. Stop Comparing Yourself to Everyone

Seriously. That game is rigged.

You’re comparing your entire messy behind-the-scenes to someone else’s curated highlight reel.

You don’t know what they’re dealing with. Focus on your journey.

Compare yourself to who you were last year. That’s where the real progress shows.

4. Not Everything Is About You

This one took me years to learn.

Sometimes people act like jerks. But it’s not always personal.

Maybe they’re having a bad day. Maybe they’re carrying their own pain.

That doesn’t excuse bad behavior. But it helps you stop internalizing everything.

5. You Don’t Need Everyone’s Approval

This one stings if you’re a people-pleaser like me.

But not everyone will like you. And that’s okay.

The more you try to make everyone happy, the more you lose yourself.

Focus on being true to who you are. The right people will stick around.

6. Perfection Is a Trap

Perfection doesn’t exist. We know that. But it doesn’t stop us from chasing it.

Trying to be perfect leads to burnout, not happiness.

Do your best. Learn from mistakes. Let the rest go.

7. Celebrate the Small Wins

Brushed your teeth today? That’s a win.

Sent the email you were dreading? Another win.

We overlook so much because we’re waiting for the big stuff.

But small wins are what build a better life.

8. You Are Brave Enough to Try

Trying is scary. Especially when you’re convinced you’ll fail.

But every accomplishment you’ve ever had started with trying.

Even trying means you believe in yourself just a little. And that’s powerful.

9. Your Imperfections Don’t Define You

We all have flaws. We all mess up.

It doesn’t make you broken. It makes you human.

You are more than the worst thing you’ve done or the thing you hate most about yourself.

10. You Have Good Qualities

Even if you can’t see them right now.

You might be funny, thoughtful, creative, loyal, or a great listener.

Ask someone who loves you what they see in you. You might be surprised.

11. Your Thoughts Can Lie

Just because your mind says something doesn’t make it true.

That voice telling you that you’re worthless? That’s fear talking. Or trauma. Or a parent who had no right to say those things.

Learn to question those thoughts.

12. Think Back to a Time You Felt Proud

Even a small one. Maybe you helped someone. Maybe you got through a hard day.

That feeling came from you. Which means it can come back.

13. You Can’t Hate Yourself Into Self-Love

Being mean to yourself won’t motivate you to grow.

It just keeps you stuck.

Imagine saying the things you say to yourself… to your best friend. You wouldn’t.

So why say them to you?

14. Be Kind to Yourself

Especially when you’re hurting.

It’s easy to give kindness to others. But you deserve it, too.

You’re doing the best you can with what you’ve got.

15. It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

You don’t have to be strong all the time.

Crying doesn’t make you weak.

Struggling doesn’t make you broken.

It makes you real.

16. You Are Still Healing

If you’ve been through trauma, especially growing up, it takes time.

You’re not behind. You’re not failing.

You’re healing. And that matters.

17. You Are Not What Happened to You

Your past shaped you, sure. But it doesn’t define you.

You are allowed to grow beyond it.

You get to write your next chapter.

18. Forgive Yourself

We all have regrets.

You might still beat yourself up over something years ago.

But what if you started letting it go?

Not pretending it didn’t happen. Just choosing not to let it haunt you anymore.

19. The Future Is Still Wide Open

Nobody can predict your future. Not even that person who said you’d never amount to anything.

You get to decide what happens next.

Your story isn’t over.

20. You Can Change

Even if you feel stuck. Even if you’ve been this way for years.

Change is possible. It doesn’t have to be big or fast.

But it starts with believing you can.

21. You Matter

To someone. Somewhere.

Even if you don’t feel it right now.

You matter.

22. Your Feelings Are Valid

You don’t need to justify why you feel the way you do.

You’re allowed to feel sad, angry, anxious, or tired.

Let yourself feel. That’s how you heal.

23. You Are Enough Right Now

Not someday. Not after you lose weight or get the job or fix everything.

Right now.

You are enough.

24. It’s Okay to Ask for Help

You don’t have to do it alone.

Talk to a friend. A therapist. A support group.

There is no shame in needing support.

25. Keep Going

This moment is hard. But it won’t last forever.

You’ve made it through every bad day so far. That’s a pretty solid track record.

So take a breath. Take a break. Then take one more step.

You’ve got this.

Final Thoughts

If no one else has told you this lately, let me be the one.

You are good enough.

Not because you proved it. Not because you earned it. Just because you are.

You are trying. You are surviving. You are learning.

And that counts.

So the next time that voice tells you otherwise, remember these reminders.

Print them out. Screenshot them. Bookmark this page.

Come back to it when you need to.

And always, always remind yourself:

You are not alone. And you are enough.